Prepare bat/bar mitzvah

Prepare bat/bar mitzvah

Prepare bat/bar mitzvah


Prepare for the Bat/Bar Mitzvah

Bar or Bat Mitzvah literally means the “son or daughter of Commandment”. It is an occasion for celebration because the girl or boy is not ready to take on and observe the commandments of the Torah or Mitzvot. The commandments are the guide to ensuring everyone knows what is most important in life, relationship with God, our family and our community.

Bar/Bat Mitzvah refers to the status of the boy or girl, just like being a parent is a status. When a Jewish boys hits 13 years of age he automatically becomes a Bar Mitzvah and the girl become Bat Mitzvah at 12. There are physical changes as well as spiritual changes taking place at this age. According to Kabbalah teachings the soul has many levels and at the time of Bar/ Bat Mitzvah the soul called Neshama brings forth with it the quality of awareness. Sensitivity and moral awareness develops fully which helps the young ones take responsibility for their actions.

The Bar/Bat Mitzvah can be planned as a big gala event or it can be a small exclusive gathering of the most important people in his/her life. Preparations for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah start when the child is born. When the child reaches the age of ten the temple must be contacted to find out all the needs doing. The synagogue has a time frame for preparations and the formal lessons must start one year prior to the actual ceremony.

Decide what kind of event you want to mark the occasion. Depending on the local traditions, your budget and your lifestyle you can opt for any type of event which you can handle comfortably. The venue should be booked at least a year in advance along with deposits. Book your photographer, florist, caterer, entertainment etc well in advance to avoid disappointments later.

The child in question must always be involved in the preparations and decision making regarding theme, colors and food. This includes the charity community service project known as “Tzedakah”. 

Next is your guest list. Have the invitations sent out at least 6 months in advance so out-of-town guests can make the required arrangements. Ensure accommodation of all these guests is taken care of so they don’t have to fend for themselves.

Get all the small things like thank you cards, direction cards, guest towels, napkins, floral arrangements and other decorations organized so that there is no last minute flapping about. You can order personalized yarmulkes also. Confirm hair and parlor appointments.

The candle lighting ceremony requires that the child say a few lines. Get the words down on paper so there is no last minute stammering and stuttering.

In the final week have rehearsals, fit the seating plan and arrange for transportation of guests. Give the caterer the final number of people and keep a handy kit ready with you to deal with emergencies. The kit can contain a small sewing kit, nail file, make-up, scissors and lip gloss along with a hairbrush and comb.

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